TTYL

Once upon a college party there was a boy who met a girl. They spent the whole night talking and getting to know one another, sitting on a crowded couch yet hearing nothing but the other person. He was charming and she was funny and they both felt like they had known each other forever. The next night they saw each other again and spent hours and hours chatting away, exchanged phone numbers, and made plans to hang out next weekend. Sunday came and he texted her an exhilarating, "Hey" which she waited exactly 18 minutes to respond to. The next day was Monday and as the girl walked out of her first class, she almost ran right into the boy. She stopped suddenly, caught off guard, and opened her mouth to say hey. But before anything came out, the boy swiftly moved around the girl, staring blankly at her face, and fist-pumped his frat brother standing right behind her. The girl stood there, mouth still open, and watched him disappear into the classroom without even turning around to wave. Later that night, another inspiring text appeared on her phone from him asking, "whats up" as if the incidence from earlier had never occurred. 

At some point I am sure that you or someone you know has gone through an experience as described above. How does the party scene get transformed into a kind of different life in which we only live in once the sun goes down? You meet someone out, realize the next day that they are in your class, yet neither of you acknowledges the other. The next time you meet someone out, SAY HELLO when you see them again in the daylight. Learning how to talk without the excuse of "liquid confidence" is a communication skill that we all must acquire eventually if we plan on say, getting a job. Or spouse. Don't text, call. Don't chat, meet for lunch. As scary as it can seem, learning how to use your words and not your keyboard can be a very beneficial talent. The more we do it, the more friends, fun, and real confidence we will gain.